A Brass Band Tempts the Do-It-All in Me

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Last night I watched the Dallas Brass perform and it threw me back to my high school band days. My teenage trumpet player forced me out on a Friday night because his junior high band was performing with this group.

I sat in the Puyallup High School auditorium thinking I had robbed someone by paying only 10 dollars to see these gentlemen perform. They rarely sat down, cracked jokes, had fabulous solos and, by the time they finished playing, the stiff group of parents who turned up just to support our kids were clapping, hooting, hollering and some were even swing dancing in the aisles. Midway through their program the junior high bands and then the high school went up to play with them. The brass had composed music especially for the young musicians and are promoting a program where the local school bands play in nursing homes. Afterwards I heard one mom talk of how she wanted to start singing again. My friend and I are going to  see if we can connect her with the Jet City Chorus, a local women’s a Capella group.

The Dallas Brass also played the William Tell Overture — a song I still have memorized from the days of marching around a stadium at night with frozen cold fingers in gloves with the fingers cut out so the pads of my fingers would cover the clarinet’s holes.

When I was in high school I thought I could do everything, and I frequently did. I went to school, took challenging classes, went to springboard diving practice afterwards, squeezed in some homework and dinner on the school grounds because I didn’t have the time to go home, and then did marching band practice. I know at one point I also held a part time job in an optometrist’s office, calling to remind people they needed their eyes examined. I can’t remember if I did this on the same nights as the swimming and band. That time of my life is (not surprisingly) a bit of a blur.

A part of me felt accomplished for doing all of this. A much larger chunk of me felt exhausted. I’m not sure I would let my own son keep this schedule, but I don’ t remember my parents saying anything except: “Wow. You must be tired.”

Eventually I figured out that this was nuts all on my own. I did nothing well — my schoolwork, diving, and music sputtered. I started to say no. I said no to others when they asked me to do things but mostly no to myself when I wanted to do it all. Life got better.

I won’t say I don’ t still suffer from do-it-all-ism. But I have recovered and watch carefully for symptoms.

The summer of 2013 was the opposite of those high school years. I had time to putter around.

This summer I got an extra stretch of time off from my teaching job. Our college is moving from an early September start date to an end of September start date to get in line with the rest of the community/technical college system which meant I had from the end of July to September 10th off.

I filled those hours with writing, potty training, camping, day trips, house projects, getting kiddos ready for school in September and even a short sabbatical I wrote about earlier. But none of it had structure. For the most part no one expected me anywhere and my activities were what I wanted when I wanted to do them.

My writing output increased at the beginning of August with the oodles of free time, but then the words dwindled as my days of free form made me feel listless. Some of this may be because I wasn’t completely off. Some of it is because I have a 3 year old to run me ragged. We both needed to get back into a solid groove that I know stay at home mothers must be able to create on their own.

After my loosely formed days of summer, I spent this past week in teacher in-service training. For the most part I liked it though I’m feeling nervous about getting myself together for next week with increased teaching hours and paper grading. Already I’ve struggled to keep my words going with the shorter morning hours for punching at the keyboard or scribbling across the page.

I’m now teetering on the brink of the swamped high school days and hoping to keep grounded. And wouldn’t you know it — those Dallas Brass guys made me want to start playing in the community band again or at least in church. Much of my life seems a swing between too busy and not enough structure. I can’t imagine anyone else has it all figured out, and I’m betting others can relate.  It seems no magic number of hours for work and rest exists. So much depends on what kind of person you are and, even if you figure it out for one period of time in your life, it is likely to change as your days move along. I monitor myself to keep focused on the joys that matter most to me. That sometimes means I need to leave some of my passions in order to dial into the most meaningful activities. Often music has moved to the seat behind.

But Lordy. That guy playing the opening clarinet solo to Rhapsody in Blue on his piccolo trumpet was enough to tempt me to crack open my case and put the licorice stick back together again. I’ll not sound anything like him, but I’d have a bit of fun trying. Sign me up with the other mom who was inspired to squeeze a bit of music into our days.

Clarinet - Exhibition Feb 1989

Solo contest in 1989 (nothing at all like Rhapsody in Blue!)

Marching Band

We may well have been playing the William Tell Overture here. I’m in that formation with white pants and hard plastic shoes.

About the author: Karrie Zylstra Myton is a blogger, essayist, and aspiring author who writes for the wild joy it brings on the best days and the hard lessons she learns about life on the worst. After crafting stories in the ridiculously early morning hours, she chases her two sons, cuddles with cats, and laughs with her husband about how crazy life can get in middle age.

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